Life Happens

Home got flooded. Found some awesome eats: Fig Tree, Green Acre, Harbor House (more on that in another post). Nate hurt his knee… still don’t get how (yet, another post). Business is REALLY picking up. We lived in hotels for a month. I gained a bunch of weight. Didn’t get to train as much… surfed for the 1st time in forever. AND, realized how much I actually work.

It’s a perfect post for a video entry!


So… here it is.


And, here’s the epic snapchat story on Nate’s birthday 🙂

Business Trip: Round 2

So, I went to Nashville… during CMA week. Yeah… it was nuts.

This means 2 business trips in 2 weeks. My #herowife handled the entire situation at home, including huffing up 1/2 the house for a family reunion in another city.

Now, the trip itself was amazing. But, that’s not what this blog post is about. This post is about the aftermath of this 2nd trip.

First, my son became more attached than EVER. As far as my wife and I can tell, his psychology is functioning with the assumption that if anyone leaves, who knows when they are coming back? And, who knows if they are ever going to come back, at all?

Second, since he’s in the midst of his terrible twos. It’s been hard on me, mentally, to process the fact that I actually need to deal with these communication frustrations… I thought he’d skip it. It was looking that way at least. One can hope…

Thirdly, this last trip really taught me how much I really need to make time for my wife and I, separately as a couple… versus “together” as parents. We need to reconnect and make sure the marriage remains priority.

Well… more to come. It’s been a while on this blog since the last post. *sighs*… it’s just been so busy in life. As it always is, isn’t it???

Relationships Should Make You BETTER

So, I felt compelled to write a blurb about relationships. I think relationships are such a fascinating thing in the human experience being that we actually get to (for the most part) choose who, how, and why we relate to each other.

That said, I also find it fascinating that many times, we as humans, tend to choose some of the worst situations in which to relate.


Relationships Should Make You BETTER

My wife, she certainly has made me a better man. And, if you’d ask her family, she would say that I made her better as well. I’ve blogged on Blog @DrBenFung in the past about Why Your Relationship is Lonely and 5 Signs You Are Meant To Be.

I want to build on the discussion here.

I believe that relationships should make you better. It should make you better, make areas you are weak stronger, make areas that frustrate you more peaceable, make otherwise presently strained relationships more amicable.

The last thing relationships should do is make you worse. Fight more. Argue more. Be irritable. Take you away from friends & family. Worse your attitude. Screw with your behaviors. THOSE things are HUGE warning signs that things aren’t going well.

Also, that whole problem of guys wanting to save girls or girls wanting to fix the guy… that whole “nice guys finish last” complex is a horrible thing for everyone involved. Good men get passed up for the bad boys. Good women get treated awful by immature dumb dumbs. And, it of course, extrapolates for any and every sway you can imagine.

It’s not who you relate to, it’s how you relate.

I also find that it’s tragic that many women are constantly in this state of emotional pause; waiting for the other shoe to drop… waiting for something terrible to happen… something, some secret they are hiding. The same goes for guys. Guys wait for the girls to go crazy… or just accept that they “are” crazy.

Again, all things BAD about relationships to which people are looking forward to.

It’s kinda tragic.

So, rather than such negativities. Let me offer that relationships that are good for you… ARE GOOD FOR YOU! #ThanksCaptainObvious

But, really… I wouldn’t be writing these thoughts unless I felt they needed to be said. If you take a look at the pure fact that MOST relationships won’t last and/or end the way they began (whether formal/informal, married/unmarried, exclusive/open)… the FACT is that when relating, should we wish for such relationships to be successful, we need to pursue the ones that make us better people, more joyful people, more constructive, more positive, more altruistic, and generally happier in life.

A good relationships makes you happy in who you are as much as you are happy in who you are with.


Well… those are my thoughts.

On a similar note, I’ve been writing out 200+ possible podcast episodes… I’m STILL flirting with this idea of a relationship advice based podcast. Short little nuggets of wisdom. I’m on topic #232. When I get to #260… I’ll have one year’s worth of topics to talk through… maybe by then, I’ll start. AND, of course… I’ll have to incorporate Q&A 😉

6 Years & Then Some

So, this post is kind of an all in one combo post. Things got OUT OF HAND this month. I know, I know… it was supposed to be this catch up month with all of my prelaunch materials. Well, I made a rookie blogger mistake. Well, a pair of rookie blogger mistakes.

First, never slate out posts too far in advance. Many times, those posts just aren’t relevant by the time they arrive on deck for release. Second, catch up posts tend to be inherently out of date… it’s best just to do one big catch up post and move forward. Well… THIS, is my catch up all in one post.

A week ago, on March 20th, my wife and I celebrated our SIXTH wedding anniversary. Yeah. What happened?! 5th year seemed to be… yesterday, maybe? Maybe and possibly a week ago? But, an entire year?! Time flies when you’re married to someone awesome 🙂

It also dawned on me that not only have we been married for 6 years, Nathan has been with us for the better part of half of our years together. That’s a very special thing. And, it really made me appreciate how much of our parenthood is woven into the fabric of our marriage. You know what they say, Be sure you understand that who you marry will also be the parent of your child(ren).

Welps! Here are some highlights!

Nate got tired, and couldn’t even handle it…

And… I mean, REALLY couldn’t even…

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Also, check out this BEAUTY of a view. The trains are out of commission right now as Disneyland is building out Star Wars Land. But, have no fear, the trains are parked strategically for guests to experience on board.

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All together, it’s been amazing. I realized that year 5, quite literally, FLEW by. There’s been a lot that’s been happening. Emotionally, financially, mentally, physically, professionally, parentally, etc. It really struck me that, I need to step back and enjoy these precious moments. Otherwise, it may very well render how we got here meaningless when we forget WHY we started this journey to begin with.

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PS. My wife totally got chased down by some lady who was INTENT on complimenting her for the message on her shirt. Well, I’ll say she is 😉